Feeling Ugly

How to understand and cope with feeling ugly.

Overview

Feeling ugly is a feeling that accompanies human beings often. It's the feeling that your physical appearance isn't up to par, or is inadequate compared to the looks of others. Feeling ugly often can propel mental illnesses like BDD(Body Dysmorphic Disorder), depression, and anxiety. Feeling ugly is a harmful mindset to have because unwavering insecurity can affect your performance in literally any aspect of your life. Insecurities can affect your school/work performance, and even artistic or athletic performances as well. It is normal to have these feelings once in a while, but if you have this feeling often, you may want to consult a professional.

Reflection

Reflecting doesn't necessarily mean look in the mirror. Reflection means looking at what's inside. Asking yourself questions can help you figure out what may be the root of this feeling, and weeding out the root in order to feel okay again. You might feel ugly after meeting someone who you think is smarter, prettier, and overall more accomplished. You need to remember that not everything is how you think it is. If you think you've met the perfect person, that person could have many underlying flaws like everyone else. The bottom line is to focus on your own self. Work on bettering your confidence. Work on a new skill, or a new hobby. Feeling ugly is usually a byproduct of societal standards, and the first step to overcoming that feeling is to simply look past beauty standards.

Give yourself everything!

What this means is to take care of yourself. Don't be afraid to buy that dress just because of the fear that others will judge you. Don't be afraid to dye your hair because of the looks you may receive. Purposefully restricting yourself to fit in a mold that's not you will negatively impact your confidence. Don't hold back on being who you are and doing what you like because you're afraid of what others think. Other people aren't you! Live life for yourself.

Treat yourself nicely

We can often be too hard on ourselves for the littlest of things. Learning to be nice to yourself will help you feel better about yourself in the long run.